One-line definition
Hair pulling creates control, pain, and postural direction through a grip on the hair.
Full definition
A hand in the hair is one of the most economical gestures of control in all of kink: it directs posture, sets intensity, and reads as dominance and intimacy at the same time. Community knowledge favours a full grip close to the scalp over yanking at strands, which is the difference between control and mere pain, and like all impact-adjacent acts it belongs in negotiation rather than assumption.
Related terms
- D/s
- Impact Play
- Marking
- Consent